How to Rebuild After a Breakup

Going through a grieving process is part of rebuilding after a breakup.Going through a grieving process is part of rebuilding after a breakup.

According to singer and songwriter Neil Sedaka, "Breaking Up is Hard to Do." No matter how strong of a person you are, rebuilding after a breakup takes time and healing. Healing after a breakup requires you to allow yourself to grieve and look internally to see what needs to be changed within before beginning your next relationship. If you find yourself in this predicament, there are a few things to keep in mind to get you through this difficult time.

Spend time with people who care about you and are willing to listen to your feelings.

Go out and meet new people. It is important to surround yourself with friends who have always been accepting of you and care enough to listen to you. It also is important to make some new friends with which to form new bonds, especially if you and your significant other had friends in common.

Exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet. Getting into a routine of exercise creates stability. Exercise also is a time to relieve stress and tension.

Understand why the relationship ended. Honestly look at yourself and analyze if there are areas in which you need to improve before you begin a new relationship.

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  • Be patient after a breakup. Healing takes time and doesn't happen quickly.


  • Don't make any drastic decisions soon after a breakup, such as moving or changing jobs. Allow yourself time to heal before making any big decisions.

About the Author

Lori Furgerson began writing for an educational company in 2005. She was a classroom teacher for 12 years and became a national literacy consultant, traveling the country to work with state departments, school districts and at the school level to improve literacy instruction. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in liberal studies from California State University at Northridge.

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