Communicate openly with your partner about your plans and goals for renewing and improving your relationship.
If you decide to reconcile your relationship, it is important to define the strengths and weaknesses of your partnership. Build on your strengths and set goals about how you want to improve any difficulties. For example, if your strength as a couple is that you share responsibilities evenly, you should continue to work from this strength and remind each other of this positive interaction. Goals to improve issues that cause conflicts should be clearly discussed and a plan should be outlined about how you will address these problems if they arise in the future.
Plan pleasurable activities together and enjoy each other's company.
When you're trying to reconcile after a breakup, it can be a sensitive time for both you and your partner. It's important to enjoy your time together and remember why you decided to have a relationship. Feeling grateful for your time together and focusing on positive experiences can ensure that you've overcome any lingering resentments.
Set a timeline to assess your progress and discuss any improvements or continuing concerns.
It's important that you and your partner agree on a timeline for any improvements you'd like to make in the relationship. For example, if your breakup was caused by problems with anger or conflict, you might set a goal to reduce the amount of arguments and make a concerted effort to use healthier communication skills. After a month or two, you can follow up and honestly discuss how you're both progressing with these goals.
Seek professional help if needed.
Some couples seek counseling with a couples' therapist to work through past issues and improve their communication. If your breakup led to ongoing resentments, you might both find that discussing the past issues with a therapist will help you work through any ongoing anger and create the possibility of improved communication and trust.