About the Risks of Online Dating

Online dating is convenient.
People create a profile, list what they're looking for, then say the right things. But online dating also has risks. Unlike first-time face to face meetings, people don't know who they're really talking to. Couples could hit it off online, trade deceptive pictures, then suffer the shock of the first meeting.

History

Couples constantly find innovative ways to find romance.
In the past, people met and formed relationships. Others carried out distance dating involving correspondence. Throughout this time, people played the "dating game. " They got tired of these games, and looked for ways to cut them out. Enter the personal section in newspapers and magazines. They described themselves, and what they're looking for. When Internet use became common, people placed personal ads online.

Function

Personal ads in newspapers and magazines allowed for traceability.
People sent their ad, along with their contact information, to the editor. The editor published a tracking number with the personal ad. This number identified the ad placer's name and contact information. The editor forwarded responses, to the tracking number, to the ad placer's address. The names of the responders could be investigated. This isn't as easy on the Internet. With software providing complete anonymity, there's no guarantee that responders could be traced and investigated.

Types

A person could create a profile, participate on a blogging forum, or sign up with a match making service.
Once contact is established, the initial screening begins. Regular email and text messaging exchanges happen. Both sides get a feel of how the other person thinks, and what their limitations are. Online dating could also involve phone calls. Virtual intercourse is one kind of online dating. Both sides live out an intimate experience via email exchange.

Considerations

Men generally outnumber women on online dating sites.
This forces men to figure out what to say in the subject line, and the body of their message. They should completely read each woman's profile, blogs, and website. Knowing this information will help the man write a subject line that stands out among his competitors' responses. Both men and women should carefully read profiles. Personal preferences are there for a reason. You shouldn't assume that the person they're interested in will make an exception just for you.

Warning

A blonde, blue-eyed bombshell could actually be a grossly overweight woman.
Mr. "six-pack and tanned rich guy," could be a 300 pound man with no teeth. He could be someone with a dead-end job. Anybody could use old photographs -- or fake ones. The right photo lighting, and angle, can make someone look a lot better than they really are. Computer software helps people airbrush bad traits out. A more serious risk involves predators. For kids, that "Internet friend" could actually be a pedophile. For women, that "stud" could actually be a serial killer. The pedophile, and killer, are smart, and know what to say to get their victims to respond to them, and not to others.

About the Author

Jerome Felix has written professionally since 2006. He has contributed to BakPack Travel Guides, Stusview.com, Writers Research Group and various other websites. Felix holds an associate degree in liberal arts, a bachelor's degree in business administration and management from Saint Leo University and a Master of Business Administration from Trident University.

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