How to Know If a Shy Woman Is Interested in a Man?

A shy woman uses body language to send signals if she is interested in a man.A shy woman uses body language to send signals if she is interested in a man.

Women who are shy may be more difficult to read in a dating situation since their advances may be less obvious than their more outgoing female dating counterparts. Understanding female body language is critical in deciphering a shy woman’s level of interest in a man. A man who is interested in a shy woman should familiarize himself with the subtle clues she may leave to show her interest.

Step 1

Watch her eye contact. A shy woman may glance at a man she finds attractive, but will turn away if he notices her and may avoid making eye contact completely. For those who do make eye contact, it will not be an engaging stare, but rather a brief glance.

Step 2

Notice what she does with her hands. A shy woman may become fidgety with her hands if she is interested in a man. She may run her fingers through her hair, adjust her jewelry or touch her earlobe. (See References 1 and 2)

Step 3

Identify physiological changes. A shy woman may start to blush and become red in the face when spoken to by a man in whom she is interested. If she feels nervous, you may also notice her hand trembling or difficulty getting her words out.

Step 4

Look at her overall body language. If a shy woman is interested in a man, her shoulders will face him squarely and she may lean in toward him slightly while he is talking.

Step 5

Observe her friends. If a shy woman is with her friends, they may look back and forth between her and the man she is interested in, smiling as they talk to each other.

Step 6

Ask her if she is interested. Sometimes, a direct approach is the most effective way to know if a shy woman feels an attraction. This also helps prevent possible misinterpretations of her signals and body language.

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  • Take your time let things go at her pace if you are pursuing a relationship with a woman who is shy.


  • Use care when observing her nonverbal cues. If she realizes you are watching her every move, this is likely to make her feel more uncomfortable.

About the Author

A mother of three and graduate of the University of Texas, Mary Evett is the online pregnancy expert who contributes to and CBS Local. Her passion for DIY projects is showcased monthly on the craft blog, My Crafty Spot. She is the author of the blog, Just Mom Matters.

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