Signs of Flirting in Adults

Flowers are sometimes given flirtatiously.Flowers are sometimes given flirtatiously.

Sometimes it is hard to tell if someone is flirting with you or if she is just being friendly. If you miss signs of flirting when they are present, then the other person in question will think you're not interested. Alternatively, if you misinterpret friendliness as flirting, that person will be taken aback when you make your move. You need to stay aware of what to look for when you're talking to someone to determine whether he is flirting or not.

Preening Behaviors

People who are flirting often touch themselves. Women often play with their hair, while men touch their faces, ears and cheeks. Both sexes unconsciously adjust their clothing -- men ensure that their shirts are smooth and tucked in, while women check that their skirts are straight. These are all preening behaviors in which people make themselves look more attractive to the person they are flirting with.

Name Dropping

When someone is flirting with you, she will say your name in conversation more often than someone who is not. This is because she likes you and your name, and she is trying to show that she is interested by repeating it. So, if you hear your name repeated more than you would in a conversation with a bus driver or a friend, then you are probably flirting.

Attention Seeking

Men and women often try to set themselves apart from the crowd when they are flirting. So, gestures and movements are more exaggerated and stories and anecdotes are more animated. Someone who is flirting with you basically is trying to make you like him, and he will do so by trying to put his best foot forward.

Voice Tone

When people flirt, they subconsciously change their voice tone to match the person they are flirting with. They don't just change their tone, either. They also change their cadence and intonation to build a connection. By mimicking your voice tone, the person you are talking to is showing that she is interested in you and wants to be like you. So, if you notice a change in someone's voice tone to match yours when you are talking to her, then she is probably flirting with you.

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About the Author

Sam Grover began writing in 2005, also having worked as a behavior therapist and teacher. His work has appeared in New Zealand publications "Critic" and "Logic," where he covered political and educational issues. Grover graduated from the University of Otago with a Bachelor of Arts in history.

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