The Signs of Lust

Lust is a nice feeling, and it's important to be able to recognize it.Lust is a nice feeling, and it's important to be able to recognize it.

If you're dating someone, it can be easy to lose your rationality. You may think you're in love, but you may actually just be in lust -- you're extremely sexually attracted to the person, and you can't keep your hands off him or her, but this may be as far as it goes. Nothing is wrong with this, but it's important to evaluate your feelings to keep yourself from giving the wrong idea or getting hurt.

Sexual Preoccupation

Though healthy, frequent sex is a key part of a romantic relationship, it's not the only part. If the relationship were a house, sex would be a foundation -- it wouldn't be the kitchen, bathroom, bedrooms and light fixtures as well. One sign of lust is thinking of your significant other only sexually; you're not really interested in communication, intimacy or other parts of a relationship, but just want to have sex all the time.

Time Together

People who are in lust tend to spend all their time together having sex. If you're going out with someone on the weekend, having dinner, seeing some friends, then coming home and having sex, there's probably more to the relationship than lust. However, if you both do your own thing, seeing your own friends then meeting up in the evening, what you are feeling is lust. People in love relationships spend time together doing non-sexual things; if you don't do this, then you are probably in lust.

Lack of Knowledge

Lust is physical attraction. You don't really need to know a lot about someone to lust after him. Rather, you just need to like the way he looks and like the physical chemistry you share. Because lust is just physical attraction, you don't really need to know any other details to feel it. If you are seeing someone and feel strongly attracted to him, yet don't know what he does for a living, where he's from or even (in extreme cases) his last name, you are well and truly in lust.

Future Plans

Everyone has an idea of what her future ideally will look like. If you are seeing someone and thoroughly enjoy your sex life, but, when you look forward, do not see her playing a role in it, you are probably in lust. Love is about keeping someone around for the future; lust is about enjoying yourself right now.

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About the Author

Sam Grover began writing in 2005, also having worked as a behavior therapist and teacher. His work has appeared in New Zealand publications "Critic" and "Logic," where he covered political and educational issues. Grover graduated from the University of Otago with a Bachelor of Arts in history.

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