Signs Your Relationship Is Over

Romantic love is complicated, to say the least.
People can change and drift apart over time.People can change and drift apart over time.
People who started off very compatible change and drift apart, and if you do not put a good amount of effort into maintaining the spark, the relationship just might fizzle out. The demise of a relationship does not happen overnight; issues undoubtedly lie beneath the surface, leading to confrontation and ultimately the parting of ways of both members.

Zero Communication

For a relationship to work, the message has to go both ways.
Communication is key in any relationship.
If both members of the couple no longer communicate their feelings, wants and needs, misunderstandings and misguided irritation toward one another are inevitable. This self-imposed stifling of expression leads to bickering as one person's message is not fully grasped by the other, and vice versa. Arguments can be positive if the couple can grow as a result. However, if the same issue repeatedly comes up and the partners are not willing to truly put themselves in the other's shoes and understand their viewpoint, clearly one or both members are no longer invested in making the relationship work.

Hitting Below the Belt

Even in boxing, hitting below the belt is wrong.
Every couple fights.
Mean insults and nasty reproaches, however, should never be permitted within the confines of a healthy relationship. Eventually, if such an ugly environment is nurtured, resentment blooms while respect for one another declines. A couple should fight for their relationship and not against each other. Feelings can be hurt irremediably as one or both members begin to see the other as an enemy.

Bitterness

Bitterness is a sign that your relationship is over.
If the sight of a happy couple waltzing joyfully down the street hand-in-hand is met with envy and bitterness by either half of the couple, then the relationship is not in top shape.
There must be something lacking in the partnership if jealousy arises as another's relationship soars. It takes two to tango; if one person in the relationship is not happy, then both members need to reflect on whether it should be saved or tossed by the wayside.

The Only Reason You're Still Together is Time

A 7-year-old relationship appears like a lifetime to some.
As such, saying goodbye to something that has taken so long to build is no easy endeavor. Granted, no relationship should ever be terminated without careful thought, but time should never be the only string holding both parties together. While all the love and attraction have dissipated, all either can say when asked why they're still holding on is: "Well, it's been x amount of years. " That is not a good reason. Time does not a relationship make.

No Intimacy

Intimacy is a private moment between just the two of you.
Emotional and physical intimacy is an important element in romantic relationships.
Life gets hectic, but love should be one of the couple's priorities. Spontaneous kissing, caressing and, yes, sex should occur frequently. Although not every couple is sexually intimate, the human being needs touch. Even a back rub or a neck smothered in kisses could be your way of showing affection. As for emotional intimacy, if the couple no longer peers into each other's souls and acquaints themselves with the other's hopes, dreams and fears, it is clear that the other person's presence is taken for granted. There needs to be both physical and emotional intimacy lest a major part of the relationship suffers and it inevitably crumbles.

About the Author

Magdalene Ayuk began writing professionally in 2006. She has served as Voices editor for Dawson's student newspaper, snagged an internship with online magazine M.I.S.S., worked as a ghostwriter and written commentaries related to the black Montreal community for "Community Contact." Ayuk attended Concordia University where she earned a bachelor's degree in English literature with a minor in Spanish.

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