How to Take it Slow While Dating

Casual dating will help you find the right person.Casual dating will help you find the right person.

The beginning of a new relationship is a mix of anticipation and curiosity. You want to spend time with your new partner, and are excited to learn about her habits and interests. It's natural to want to jump into exploring all aspects of your relationship. However, taking the time to enjoy the infancy of the relationship can help you avoid early conflict and miscommunication. While you may have the potential to engage in a lasting relationship, rushing into things too quickly can endanger its longevity.

Set your boundaries early on. Have a conversation about what you want in a relationship. You don't need a finite idea of your wants, but you must explain what you don't want. That way, you and your partner understand each other's expectations from your relationship.

Spend time outside of the bedroom. Regardless of when you decide to become active, you should have non-sexually oriented dates as well. The Top Dating Tips website notes that if sex occurs too early on in a relationship, it isn't likely that relationship will last because the allure of intimacy is gone. Involve her in your favorite hobbies and learn about her interests as well.

Invite hum to meet your friends, or go on a double date. This will let you see how he acts in group settings and whether you enjoy the same group activities.

Keep your lifestyle intact. Smothering her with flattery and being too available to hang out will create unhealthy relationship habits. In the Doc Love blog titled "Take it Slow", Doc Love tells men that endless flattering your partner is likely to lead to rejection for what could have been a good relationship. Complimenting your partner nonstop will only appear insincere and make you look desperate to please her.

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  • Communicate openly from the start of your relationship. Feelng nervous about discussing certain topics is normal, but hiding your feelings will only cause tension in your relationship.


  • Speak up when you feel things are moving too quickly in your relationship. Whether it's too much of a physical or emotional jump, you should let your partner know if you are uncomfortable about any aspect of your relationship.

About the Author

Mia Faller started writing in 2006. Her career includes news and features articles for her university newspaper, "The Clock," book reviews for "The Weirs Times" and print and electronic newsletters for Annie's Book Stop and the New Hampshire Humane Society. Faller's writing interests include animals, religious/metaphysical studies, yoga, body modification and travel. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in English from Plymouth State University.

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