Determine why you want to slow down the relationship.
There's nothing wrong with slowing down a relationship. Still, it's vital to gather your thoughts and understand your feelings. You may not feel a romantic attraction, or perhaps you started to feel a negative vibe.
Communicate your feelings.
Speak with your significant other and express your need to slow down the relationship. Be honest, but take his or her feelings into consideration. If necessary, write a letter. This way, you can get your thoughts on paper.
Establish a few relationship boundaries.
Whether you need space or time to rethink the relationship, it's important to establish a few limitations. If you and your significant other spend every waking moment together, you may decide to limit interaction temporarily. Moreover, you may decide to limit or completely stop intimacy.
Stick with your decision.
Once you establish the new relationship boundaries, stick with the agreement. Sending mixed signals or being hypocritical complicates the situation.
Let your partner know how much you care about the relationship.
Telling someone you want to slow down a relationship can put fear in his or her heart. Convey that you would like to continue the relationship, but you need a little space.
- Clearly communicate your need to slow the relationship down, or else you will appear wishy-washy.
- Know that requesting a relationship slowdown may cause your partner to break up with you.