How to Start a Conversation With a Girl

You are out at a bar and you see that cute girl across the room from you. She's laughing and having a good time and you want to go over and start a conversation with her. Everyone knows that pickup lines just don't work. Girls know when they are being used. Follow these steps to learn how to start a conversation with a girl.

Act quickly when you see a girl that captures your interest. If you take too long you may lose your opportunity, or your courage.

Pay attention to your surroundings, including what she's wearing, carrying, who she's with and the scent of her perfume. This will give you ideas to strike up a conversation.

Look for a girl with your level of energy. If you are an outgoing, talkative guy, then start a conversation with a girl who is also talkative. If you are quiet and mellow, then pickup on a girl who has a similar personality.

Pickup a girl by talking about props in your surrounding. These can be what she is drinking, an outfit she is wearing or the lighting in the bar.

Ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation going. An open-ended question is one that requires more than "yes" or "no" to answer it.

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  • Make sure to smile when you attempt to start a conversation with a girl. It makes the situation more relaxed for both of you.


  • Don't discuss religion or politics when you start a conversation with a girl. There's a high likelihood that her views are different than yours and the conversation may go nowhere.

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