It's usually easy to know when a relationship is going well, from frequent phone calls, romantic gestures and loving looks. But when things start to go south, we may try to deny that it's happening and just hope for the best. If you are unsure if your boyfriend still wants to be with you, chances are there is trouble. Here are some things to think about to help you determine if it's time to move on.
Notice whether he is still spending time with you. If your dating pattern has changed and your man is spending less time with you and more time with friends or at work, he may not want to be with you anymore. This is a sign that he is pulling away and may have already moved on. If your time together doesn't involve anything more than a sexual encounter, it may be time to make a change.
Determine if he is calling less or not answering your phone calls or text messages. Most relationships start off strong with phone calls and texts, and communication will remain stable if he's still invested. If you find that your man is not answering when you call, he may be sending you cues.
Be suspicious if he seems to be hiding phone calls or withholding information about how he spends his time away from you. Being open and honest is a sign that he wants to be with you. On the other hand, if you feel like your boyfriend is suddenly hiding information and appears defensive about his whereabouts, he may want to move on.
Ask yourself if you are arguing more frequently. If he was once generally agreeable and is now picking fights over silly things, his feelings may have changed. A once-happy guy who is mostly morose when you are together may be trying to tell you something.
Pick up on his verbal and nonverbal language. When a man wants to be with you, he makes eye contact and expresses his affection. If suddenly your guy is evasive, physically distant and doesn't initiate the "I love you's," his feelings may be elsewhere.
Pay attention to threats of breaking up. All couples fight occasionally, but if you are getting ultimatums such as, "Well, if that's the way you feel, we're through," chances are he is looking for a way out without taking the blame. If you see this happening, chances are he doesn't want to be with you anymore.
- The fact that you are wondering if your relationship is over is your first clue that it might be in jeopardy. If this is the case, be proactive; work things out or move on.