How to Stop Being Shy Around Good-Looking Girls

Take the opportunity to set up a date if she expresses interest in certain activities.Take the opportunity to set up a date if she expresses interest in certain activities.

If you’re a great guy with a lot to offer but are having trouble meeting girls, try out a few proven tips and techniques for getting out of your own way and meeting new people. Shyness can be a big barrier to meeting attractive girls, and it’s something you’ll need to conquer in order to date and find a girlfriend. Eventually, you’ll feel comfortable approaching pretty women at your morning coffee shop, college class or at a party.

Step 1

Say “hi” to strangers, both men and women, of all ages and all levels of attractiveness. Before you approach gorgeous girls at a bar, you’ll have to be comfortable being open and friendly to everyone.

Step 2

Make eye contact. The best way to see who’s interested in you and show a girl that you’re interested in her, too, is to make eye contact and hold it for a couple of seconds. This is a big first step, and it will prepare both of you for speaking to each other.

Step 3

Approach her within a few minutes of making eye contact. Walk slowly over to her -- walking too fast will make you look overeager. She may be in a group of people, which is intimidating. However, if you want to speak with her, you’ll have to brave the crowd and head over anyway.

Step 4

Prepare a few questions that will help you to not only strike up a conversation but also keep one going. Start by asking her name and where she’s from. You can ask what she does for a living, where she went to school and when was the last time she traveled. If you continue talking, ask about her hobbies, siblings and favorite fun things to do on the weekend.

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  • Several people turn to hypnosis or therapy to combat their shyness. If basic tips aren’t helping you battle your shyness, you may want to consider turning to a professional for advice, recommendations and treatment.
  • If the girl you’re talking to seems to be chatting about activities she hasn’t tried but would like to, take the opportunity to set up a date.


  • Be prepared for the first few times you approach a good-looking girl to feel uncomfortable. However, remember that what you’ve been doing hasn’t been working for you, and any kind of change is going to come with a period of adjustment and you'll feel out of your comfort zone.

About the Author

As a full-time writer in New York's Hudson Valley, Lindsay Pietroluongo's nightlife column and photos have appeared regularly in the "Poughkeepsie Journal" since 2007. Additional publications include "Chronogram," the "New Paltz Sojourn," "About Town" newspaper and "Outsider" magazine. Pietroluongo graduated from Marist College with a B.A. in English.

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