Rejection, self-doubt and fear of being hurt can reinforce an instinct some of us have of keeping people in our lives at bay. To truly love and be loved, you have to stop pushing people away. Here are some tricks that can help you stop pushing people away and lead a happier life.
Begin with self-love. The truth is that you need to love yourself before anyone else can love you. Write out all of the things people love about you, and write down the things that frustrate or annoy those who love you. This helps to bring to light the cold hard facts about what you do that can push love away. Tell yourself every day that you are good at three things. Practice and nurture those things in your personality, and strive to rid yourself of the things in your life that make you unhappy and bring on mood swings.
Learn to accept love. Low self esteem will rob you of a feeling of deserving love. If you feel as though you don't deserve the people in your life, you may be inadvertently pushing them away because of it. Stop pushing people away by looking at them and telling yourself that they are good people and that you deserve to have their love.
Take fear out of your life. Instead of waiting for someone to disappoint you, learn how to stop fearing love and a successful relationship with someone. Stop pushing people away out of fear, and you can really be happy in love, work, your social life and at home.
Become an attractor. Stop the dialogue in your head about how every man or woman is the same as the last one. These negative feelings and thoughts can lead to self-fulfilling prophesies. If you tell yourself that you will only attract the same types of people who will hurt you, you can easily make it come true. Attract positive people.