Relationship anxiety is an irrational fear experienced by many. The rejection, disapproval and uncertainty of relationships can be scary for everyone. For individuals who are susceptible to relationship anxiety, the fear of relationships becomes all consuming. Victims of relationship anxiety often suffer from an inability to sleep or function at work due to the overwhelming stress of their relationships. Sadly, relationship anxiety can lead to an inability to embrace healthy intimate relationships. Practicing specific stress management techniques can help control and prevent relationship anxiety.
Think positive. Practice daily affirmations that will put you in a happy and secure state of mind. Try something like, “I am at peace” or “I am happy and contented in my life.”
Focus your anxious energy toward constructive activities like work projects, exercising or hobbies. Staying busy and focused will prevent your from falling prey to your overactive worries.
Volunteer your time to the less fortunate. Working for a nonprofit organization or with the homeless or underprivileged will help you to put your fears into perspective and channel your energy away from your preoccupation with yourself.
Keep a gratitude journal and write in it daily. When you find yourself succumbing to feelings of doubt, go back to your journal and refocus your thoughts positively.
Avoid the temptation to over analyze your relationship. We ultimately do not have control over every nuance of our partner's life, thoughts or motivations. There is nothing we can do to fully protect ourselves from getting hurt.
Take responsibility for your anxiety. Relationship anxiety stems from personal fears of emotional abandonment or fear of intimacy. Explore the nature of your fears and own up to them.
Recognize that it can be equally hurtful to emotionally crowd your partner or emotionally distance yourself from your partner. A balanced relationship is a partnership of two self sustaining individuals who are both present and available for one another.
Learn how to feel safe with yourself and make an effort to enjoy your own company. Respecting and embracing yourself is the first step toward knowing how to healthfully respect and embrace another person.