While most people are aware that guys have made teasing women into an art form, few pay attention to the dynamic art of teasing guys. Though the techniques may differ, teasing guys can be a great way to capture and keep the chosen guy’s attention. With a little practice and persistence, you can have guys anxiously awaiting your next calculated teasing attack.
Decide the goal of your teasing. Although your goal may evolve over time, it is important that your efforts aren’t being completed in vain. Are you teasing the guy because you actually like him or, are you teasing the guy for the sake of having a good laugh with your friends? There are many ways to tease a guy so knowing your goal will help you choose the correct teasing methods.
Get to know your victim. This will allow you to tailor your teasing to fit the individual being teased. Although guys don’t like to admit it, they do have feelings that can be deeply hurt if your teasing is considered inappropriate or malicious. Remember that the point is to the tease the guy and not to humiliate him.
Approach the guy with confidence. Consider yourself a formidable predator targeting vulnerable prey. Everything you do must be with an air of cool confidence and self-assurance. Guys can sense weakness and actually prefer to be sought after by poised “alpha females.” Leave the whimpering and cowering to those less fortunate than yourself and bring your “A” game at all times. This will make you seem untouchable and therefore more desirable to the guy you’re teasing.
Play up to his ego. Guys like to have their egos stroked by attractive, confident women. After you’ve found out what he’s great at doing, use it to exploit him. Praise his dressing style or basketball skills to have him waiting for your next compliment or second glance. Use your good looks and personality to make the guy wish you were teasing him -- and only him. According to Michelle Burford of Oprah.com, women have more influence over guys than they realize.
Vary your teasing attacks. Guys are easily bored and need to be thoroughly occupied at all times. Making the same jokes or giving out the same compliments daily will become predictable and less satisfying. Your goal is to have the guy wondering what you will say or do to him the next time you meet. You may have competition from other women, so make yourself stand out from the crowd.
- Never say or do things that will embarrass you if others are made aware of your actions.