How to Tell If a Guy Wants to Marry You

Unless you have been given an engagement ring, it is nearly impossible to know for sure whether your boyfriend plans to marry you.
There are certain indicators you can look for to determine if a wedding is forthcoming, however. Hidden within his words and actions is the answer to your question about marriage.

Ask the guy whether he is seeing anyone else.
If he is dating you exclusively, and you have no reason to suspect that he is cheating on you, he is likely ready for long-term commitment.
Ask the guy whether he is seeing anyone else.
If he is dating you exclusively, and you have no reason to suspect that he is cheating on you, he is likely ready for long-term commitment.
Consider how many of his friends you have met.
If you have been introduced to most or all of his close friends, there is a good chance that he wants to keep you around.
Consider how many of his family members you have met.
Again, if you have met all of his close relatives, he wants you to feel like a part of his family.
Consider how long you have been dating.
It takes most people months, even years, to become completely comfortable around another person.
Consider whether he constantly criticizes your flaws.
A man who wants to marry you will appreciate you regardless of your imperfections. If he is constantly trying to change you into someone else and is not succeeding, he is probably keeping his option open in case he finds a "perfect" someone else.
Ask him about his plans for the future and evaluate his answer.
If he talks about a future with you in it, he is probably going to pop the question. However, if he wants to be the eternal bachelor and keeps mentioning his lack of interest in settling down, he will not be proposing anytime soon, if ever.
Share all of these details with your friend.
Ask for his or her honest opinion on this issue of marriage, not just what you want to hear.

Things You Will Need

  • A good friend

Tip

  • Moving in together is not required to tell whether he wants to marry you, although many couples will try living together before taking the marriage leap to ensure compatibility in close quarters.

Warnings

  • Pressuring a man about marriage can put strain on a relationship and can ultimately be a reason to break up. Be patient and let the relationship evolve naturally for at least a year. If after a year you really want to get married and he does not, it might be time to sit down together and reconsider the relationship.
  • Asking his friends if he plans to marry you might cause awkwardness or tension. If you want to stay in his friends' good graces, avoid the topic of marriage and keep the conversation light.

About the Author

Samantha Herman earned an undergraduate degree in journalism from Northern Arizona University in 2005. Her professional writing career started in 2008, when she accepted an internship at "Willamette Week," a local alternative publication. Upon completing her internship, she became employed as a copywriter for an internet media company. In addition to copywriting, she has written articles for PDX Pipeline and eHow.

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