How to Tell a Woman You Like Her in a Letter

Carefully choose words that convey your emotions, such as writing a romantic poem.Carefully choose words that convey your emotions, such as writing a romantic poem.

With the risk of rejection looming overhead, telling a woman that you like her rarely proves an easy task. If you can’t make this pronouncement face-to-face, or you prefer the idea of composing your thoughts in writing instead of verbally fumbling over words, a letter is an effective option to communicate your feelings. Take care in composing your message because it could prove the deciding factor in whether or not she returns your affections.

Step 1

Choose appropriate stationery. While the stationery you select isn’t as important as the words you place on it, starting out with eye-catching stationery is a wise choice as it shows that you took some care instead of just grabbing a sheet of notebook paper.

Step 2

Open your letter with a salutation such as "Dear" to add formality to the document. If you are quite cordial with the recipient, open with just her first name.

Step 3

Remind her of a pleasurable time you shared. Spend several sentences reflecting over your current relationship and making it clear how much you enjoy it.

Step 4

Get to the point in your next paragraph by writing a clear explanation of what you hope your relationship can become. Make it clear that your feelings go beyond friendship and that you would like to see where your relationship could go. Avoid sweeping declarations of your love as these could scare her off.

Step 5

Tell her how you want her to proceed after reading your letter. Don’t leave your letter recipient guessing as to how you hope she will respond to this declaration. Tell her specifically what you hope she'll say or do. Explain that you hope that she will start seeing you romantically or that you would like to go on a date.

Step 6

Close the letter cordially with a term such as "Yours Truly" or "Sincerely." Even though you may feel that you deeply love this letter recipient, closing your letter with “Love” is presumptuous.

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Erin Schreiner is a freelance writer and teacher who holds a bachelor's degree from Bowling Green State University. She has been actively freelancing since 2008. Schreiner previously worked for a London-based freelance firm. Her work appears on eHow, and RedEnvelope. She currently teaches writing to middle school students in Ohio and works on her writing craft regularly.

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