Take time to get over the pain. Indulge yourself by sleeping in, watching tv all day, eating that junk food, etc. You just went through a pretty traumatic experience, you deserve a little time to get over the shock/pain.
Get rid of all reminders of "you and him/her", including his/her contact info. I know this is painful to do but its for the best. No reminders/contacts means no temptation to get back together and repeat the same drama/breakup over again.
Focus on you! Its your time now and you can do whatever you want without having to consult with another person. Go on that shopping spree, go start a new class, take 5 hours at the gym, go have a spa day. You are your own person again, go rediscover yourself
Keep yourself busy (follow up to Step 3). The last thing you want to do is be sitting at home idle. This tends to lead to loneliness which then leads to calling the ex. Get on those projects you'd been procrastinating on, get buried in work, redecorate your home. ANYTHING. As long as it keeps you and your mind off of him/her
Have a support network within reach, whether it is friends/family/your pet. It's always good to be surrounded by those who really care about you when going through a breakup. Yes you have more than your ex to wipe away your tears
When ready, GET BACK OUT THERE! No your ex was not your last chance at happiness and there are others out there. I'm a big fan of the dating websites as a way to ease back in (match.com, eharmony, etc). If you need help writing a profile, check my other eHow article :)
- It's ok to be sad - break ups are hard and you are allowed to be sad. But don't let it consume you for too long
- It's ok to be selfish - do what's best FOR YOU. No need to worry about what anyone else thinks/feels
- It's ok NOT to start dating immediately - if you're not ready, you won't be in the right mindset to be meeting people. Subconsciously every date you go on will be sabotaged by thoughts of the ex or the sad mood you are in