Police officers have an extremely tough job that may involve lengthy time and tough circumstances. That doesn’t change who they are, and if you find yourself dating an officer, you shouldn’t necessarily change anything that you would do in a relationship with another person. However, because law enforcement officers endure a lot of stress on the job, a few helpful tips can help you better understand their behavior and know what a relationship with them has in store.
Police officers spend their days hunting down criminals and protecting people in need. When they get home, they need to put all of that behind them for a few hours. Don’t berate a law officer you’re dating for being late and show understanding when he has to cancel plans or move things around at the last minute. That doesn’t mean shutting off communication or not turning to him when you need support; just be aware of the rigors of his job and don’t add to the stress when he’s with you.
The more you can listen to a police officer, the more likely she is to trust you, and to open up about aspects of her job that may not be pleasant to talk about. Don’t pressure her to talk about things if she doesn’t want to – a police officer's job can entail some pretty horrific incidents – but let her know that she can talk to you about anything if she wishes. When she decides to talk, listen to everything she has to say and let her know that you’re there for her. Through listening, you can help build trust.
Avoid Asking for Favors
You may be dating a cop, but that doesn’t mean you can use his influence to skirt minor areas of the law. Don’t ask him to nullify speeding tickets, check in on your nephew’s home or do anything in an official capacity that he wouldn’t ordinarily do. That puts him in an untenable position and may get him into trouble if his superiors find out about it. While you can ask him for advice in approaching legal issues, refrain from seeking to exploit his position in any way. It shows a lack of respect.
Police officers often work long hours, and may not be there for you all the time. If you center your entire existence on your relationship, you’re bound to feel left alone for much of the time. Develop hobbies and interests outside of your time with your law officer partner. Hang out with friends, take up a new pastime and find ways to make your “me time” fulfilling. When the police officer gets off of her shift, make your time together count.