Tips for the Early Stages of Dating

First dates should be fun and easygoing.First dates should be fun and easygoing.

The beginning of a romantic relationship is a critical time for a couple. Patience and restraint are vital to the relationship's success. Rushing into any type of relationship could make for a fleeting and shallow love life. When you start dating someone new, do not get too serious too soon, but make sure the relationship starts with mutual respect and a great deal of fun.

Initial Romance

A new relationship is very fragile, because the two people don't know much about each other yet. There may be a temptation to tell each other all about themselves, but this can be overwhelming. Don't talk about past relationships, but focus on more positive things such as interests. When you find a common interest, explore that for a while. If you enjoy the same kinds of movies or music, talk about those things. Avoid discussing sex altogether. Even if you both have sex on the mind, it should not be dealt with until you've gotten to know your date on a personal level.

Where To Go

If two people like each, there's no such thing as a boring first date. Dinner and a movie, though cliche, is more than acceptable for two people wanting to get to know each other better. In general, a first date should be comfortable for both parties. Doing something exciting like a bungee jumping excursion or an ocean cruise are too much too soon. It may even be in good taste to have a date at home with homemade dinner and a DVD. This option is wiser for people who were friends first, because there is less pressure to impress the date.


Intimacy is a vital part of all romantic relationships, but in the early stages of dating it should be approached with caution. Recognize that intimacy is important, but only one aspect that contributes to a healthy relationship. The foundation of your relationship should never be intimacy, but always the mutual care for the other person. Out of that care and love, intimacy will materialize. When you do become intimate, be exceedingly clear as to what form of intimacy you will partake in. If you only want to kiss, make that clear to your partner. As is the case in all stages of relationships, the most important thing is communication.

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About the Author

Arlen Hershey has been writing science curriculum for informal science education organizations since 2006. She has written for Experiencia and Sea World. She has a bachelor's degree in biology from the University of Illinois.

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