When you enter a relationship, it is easy to feel as if the love fest will never end. However, all too often relationships run their course and you find yourself not planning the wedding that you had hoped for but navigating a breakup. While nothing can make breaking up pain free, there are some things that you can do to reduce the ache associated with the end of a love affair.
Surround Yourself With Friends
Don't go it alone when dealing with a break up. Allow your friends to provide their shoulders to cry on. With a little help from your friends, you may be able to make it through the break up process without feeling quite so alone and unloved.
Pick up a Hobby
Take all of the energy that you were putting into your relationship and apply it to a new hobby. If you have always wanted to take up watercolor painting, for example, this might be the time to do it. Learning new skills and expanding your horizons will help you to forget about whats-his-name.
Take a Trip
Hit the road and enjoy of scenery. Escape to the beach, visit a big city or take some time to rest and relax in a secluded cabin. When you come back, you will not only be more rested but likely have had some more time to think about the end of your relationship and what it means to you.
Use your breakup as an opportunity to engage in self-improvement activities. Hit the gym or take up a new sport or exercise regiment. As you reshape your body you will build your confidence and be even more ready to hit the dating market.
Connect with Family
If you have not seen your family as much as you would have liked, change that. Take a trip to your parents' home, visit an aunt with whom you have lost touch or hang out with some cousins. These relatives will likely remind you of all that you have, making you miss your ex less.
Head Back to School
If you have long wanted to earn that degree or take a few extra courses in some topics that interest you, use your breakup as the catalyst that gets you to do so. Enroll in a course or two at an area college and build up your brain instead of sitting at home and pining over your lost love.
Take Some "You" Time
Spend some time thinking about yourself and only yourself. Dedicate a week to pampering yourself, getting a manicure and a pedicure, having your hair done and perhaps even getting a massage. Buy some new clothes and make yourself feel great, not allowing yourself time to mourn the loss of your romance.
Redecorate your Space
Change things up with a home redecoration. Give the bedroom in which you shared some steamy nights with your partner a facelift. Change the wall color, add new furnishing and swap out your linens. Once you create a new space you may feel more capable of tackling new romances.
Spend some time in the great outdoors. Visit a park and hit the hiking trails by yourself, with friends or family members. Lay out under the stars and check out the night sky. As you explore nature, you may just come to realize how big the world really is and how inconsequential your breakup is in the scheme of things.
Start a Journal
A little reflection can be a healthy thing. Give yourself the opportunity to reflect by starting a journal. Buy a journal decorated with your favorite colors or images and make writing in it a daily task. As you write in your journal you will naturally engage in metacognition and develop a deeper understanding of who you are and what you want.