The Top Ten Ways to Survive a Breakup

Handling breakups often proves challenging.Handling breakups often proves challenging.

When you enter a relationship, it is easy to feel as if the love fest will never end. However, all too often relationships run their course and you find yourself not planning the wedding that you had hoped for but navigating a breakup. While nothing can make breaking up pain free, there are some things that you can do to reduce the ache associated with the end of a love affair.

Surround Yourself With Friends

Don't go it alone when dealing with a break up. Allow your friends to provide their shoulders to cry on. With a little help from your friends, you may be able to make it through the break up process without feeling quite so alone and unloved.

Pick up a Hobby

Take all of the energy that you were putting into your relationship and apply it to a new hobby. If you have always wanted to take up watercolor painting, for example, this might be the time to do it. Learning new skills and expanding your horizons will help you to forget about whats-his-name.

Take a Trip

Hit the road and enjoy of scenery. Escape to the beach, visit a big city or take some time to rest and relax in a secluded cabin. When you come back, you will not only be more rested but likely have had some more time to think about the end of your relationship and what it means to you.

Get Buff

Use your breakup as an opportunity to engage in self-improvement activities. Hit the gym or take up a new sport or exercise regiment. As you reshape your body you will build your confidence and be even more ready to hit the dating market.

Connect with Family

If you have not seen your family as much as you would have liked, change that. Take a trip to your parents' home, visit an aunt with whom you have lost touch or hang out with some cousins. These relatives will likely remind you of all that you have, making you miss your ex less.

Head Back to School

If you have long wanted to earn that degree or take a few extra courses in some topics that interest you, use your breakup as the catalyst that gets you to do so. Enroll in a course or two at an area college and build up your brain instead of sitting at home and pining over your lost love.

Take Some "You" Time

Spend some time thinking about yourself and only yourself. Dedicate a week to pampering yourself, getting a manicure and a pedicure, having your hair done and perhaps even getting a massage. Buy some new clothes and make yourself feel great, not allowing yourself time to mourn the loss of your romance.

Redecorate your Space

Change things up with a home redecoration. Give the bedroom in which you shared some steamy nights with your partner a facelift. Change the wall color, add new furnishing and swap out your linens. Once you create a new space you may feel more capable of tackling new romances.

Explore Nature

Spend some time in the great outdoors. Visit a park and hit the hiking trails by yourself, with friends or family members. Lay out under the stars and check out the night sky. As you explore nature, you may just come to realize how big the world really is and how inconsequential your breakup is in the scheme of things.

Start a Journal

A little reflection can be a healthy thing. Give yourself the opportunity to reflect by starting a journal. Buy a journal decorated with your favorite colors or images and make writing in it a daily task. As you write in your journal you will naturally engage in metacognition and develop a deeper understanding of who you are and what you want.

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About the Author

Erin Schreiner is a freelance writer and teacher who holds a bachelor's degree from Bowling Green State University. She has been actively freelancing since 2008. Schreiner previously worked for a London-based freelance firm. Her work appears on eHow, and RedEnvelope. She currently teaches writing to middle school students in Ohio and works on her writing craft regularly.

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