How to Use Your Feminine Wiles

Using feminine wiles should include innocent fun.Using feminine wiles should include innocent fun.

Using your feminine wiles to create a spark in a new or existing relationship should not be a bad thing. On a first date, it's refreshing to see the feminine side of a woman. In an existing relationship, it's good to hold on to your feminine side -- but, never in a contrived way. Being an alluring woman should never mean being trashy or dishonest. It should just be a catalyst to sparking a possible attraction.

Don't give it all away; leave something of yourself for the future.

Step 1

Be mysterious. Only reveal partial information about yourself. Tell your man he’s not ready for all of you – although you wish he was.

A white sundress is feminine and alluring.

Step 2

Dress feminine and slightly revealing. Wear slightly revealing clothing like a sweater innocently failing down one shoulder – never something totally see-through. Wear stilettos – even with jeans – if you dare.

Simply holding hands can be light, enticing contact.

Step 3

Have a light, flirty touch. Flirting shouldn’t be obvious. It should be incidental by a quick, simple, soft touch. It should leave your man wanting more, not overwhelmed with too much upfront contact.

Femininity includes speaking and acting like a lady.

Step 4

Speak like a lady. If your date wanted a truck driver, he’d visit a truck stop. Feminine wiles should not have a masculine undertone in speech or word.

Naughty can still be honest and nice.

Step 5

Be a little naughty, but honest and nice. Only suggest what you’re able to offer. A little teasing can go a long way but it’s only nice to be honest about what you’d like to do.

A smile is welcome in almost any conversation.

Step 6

Smile, even if when you’re not. Everyone wants to share pleasant moments. Even if you’re frowning in disagreement or playfully pouting, smile with your eyes – it shows respect for the man’s strength and opinion.

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Things You Will Need

  • Limits on personal information
  • Feminine, slightly revealing clothing
  • Moments for light contact
  • Lady-like vocabulary
  • Ideas for a little fun
  • Smiling eyes


  • Letting light-hearted conversation flow is all part of enjoying each other -- at any stage in a relationship.


  • Being yourself should always be put above trying to stimulate attention.

About the Author

Terry Mulligan has been writing since 2007. As an accomplished artist, decorator and business professional, she enjoys covering art, decor, business management, real estate, education, computers/software/ERP, animal rescue, cooking and self-improvement. Mulligan holds an M.B.A. from the University of Phoenix.

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