How to Know if He Wants You in His Life for Good

Women love relationships.
We love thinking about them, talking about them, being in them and nurturing them. When we have a crush, we spend stupid amounts of time observing, dissecting, analyzing, interpreting and dreaming about what is going on in the mind of our man. Yes, I am generalizing here. There are, of course, women who are not this way, but I think most are this way. And this can be a problem. Why? We spend so much time looking for the nuances, the subtle shifts in his behavior, that we forget to see the big, gaudy, flashing neon signs directly in front of us. Curious to know if the man you want wants you in his life in a substantial, long-term way-or simply for a casual brief moment? Read this tips. It is my hope that they help answer your question.

He calls for no particular reason other than to share stories about his day and ask about yours.
He makes plans to see you again.
It is not enough for him to allude vaguely to the future, about something you might maybe do sometime together. If a guy wants you in his life, he will make specific plans to see you again.
He pays attention when you talk.
His eyes are focused on you. He doesn't look around the room. He doesn't lose interest. You have the feeling as though he is hanging on your every word.
He introduces you to his friends.
It's plain and simple: if a guy is excited about you, he will be excited to show you off to his friends.
He wants to meet your friends.
And when he does, it is obvious that he wants to make a good impression.
He touches you in ways that have nothing to do with sex.
He holds your hand, he kisses your forehead, he plays with your hair, he pulls you close.
He changes his Facebook status from "Single" to "In a relationship" without you having to ask about it.
He is there when you need something.
Your car breaks down; he acts as your chauffeur for the week. A mouse occupies your house; he gets rid of it. You get sick; he brings you soup.
He does what he says he will do.
Another obvious indicator: when he says he's going to do something, he does it.
When you hit bumps on your relationship road, he communicates easily, openly and without arguing.
He doesn't get mad or withdrawn when you want to discuss your feelings or concerns about the relationship.

Tips

  • You don't have to prove how wonderful you are. If he doesn't see your beauty and the value that you'll add to his life, he isn't worth it. Move on.
  • Being in a relationship does require a lot of communication and a sincere willingness to grow, but it shouldn't feel like a battle or an endless mountain climb. Your relationship shouldn't be a constant struggle. Good relationships are, for the vast majority of the time, life affirming and smooth.
  • When in doubt, ask. If he ignores your question, changes the subject, withdraws or starts a fight, move on. It is no fun being with a guy who cannot be direct about his feelings.

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About the Author

Amanda Ford is a writer and creative thinker with a knack for cultivating love wherever she goes. She is the author of several books including KISS ME, I'M SINGLE: AN ODE TO THE SOLO LIFE and BE TRUE TO YOURSELF: A DAILY GUIDE FOR TEENAGE GIRLS. Amanda's work has been featured in Real Simple, The Chicago Tribune and The Seattle Times. With a sweet and soulful style, Amanda hopes to help her readers deepen all the relationships in their lives using kindness, compassion, understanding and play.