Write a simple greeting. Include the person's name, nickname or handle. Begin with "Hello Amy," or "How are you, Fred?" Keep the greeting friendly and personal. Avoid impersonal terms such as to "What's up" or "Hey," as these are usually unreceptive.
Keep the first email short. When you send a long message, the meaning can be lost because the recipient usually only skims portions of the email. Thus, the important, eye-catching words may not count. Stay within 100 words for the introduction email.
Add depth to the email. Some online dating messages contain fake and generic wording that are sent to several people at once. Talk about the person's profile and mention what attracted you to them. Compliment the person on their hobbies or life goals. Tell them what you have in common. Always be yourself and avoid cliches.
Ask a question in the last sentence. Find out about the places the person likes to travel to or inquire more about their interests. Pick a hobby or information from the profile and expand on this in question form.
Close the email in a welcoming tone. Use terms like "Talk soon," "Can't wait to find out more" or "Write back soon." End with your first name, a nickname or even your handle.
- Never sound too eager or desperate.
- Never use vulgar terms or discuss the person's picture in length.